The Role of Adversity Quotient in a Child Upbringing

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The Role of Adversity Quotient in a Child Upbringing

Jack was depressed after checking his results, he failed again.
He was the first child of five children.
The thought of going back home with bad grades hunted him.
He had attempted committing suicide but was rescued by one of his neighbors.
Titi had come into the house to request for match stick to lit her gas.
She screamed, on seeing him trying to hang himself with a rope hung on the ceiling fan.
Her noise attracted others in the neighborhood, who rushed to the scene to see what was going on.
Jack’s parents were out for their daily activities, and his siblings were in school.

His father had been a thorn in his flesh.
He had failed several times after, attempting a senior school certificate examination for the fourth time.


His father was furious at him and sent him away from the house that night, his mother pleaded on his behalf.
Jack, was raised in a family where his parents were always making decisions for him and this has gradually killed his self-esteem.
He loved arts, growing up, and always dreamed of becoming an artist, but ended up being in a science class due to pressures from his parent.
He had struggled several times with bad grades and couldn’t meet up.
He repeated when he was in his senior secondary school two.

The thought of committing suicide was hovering around him like a spell.
He had funded his exam, himself.

Depression has been the order of his day, he couldn’t find meaning to life anymore.

He was afraid to show his father the results, he had single-handedly raised funds for himself, so he could register for the exam himself.

Suicidal thoughts struck him like an arrow.
He went to the vendor on his way back home to purchase a bottle of snipper.
He hid it in his pocket and went home.
He was about opening it when his mother came in.

He was unfortunate again.
His mother screamed.
He fell flat and slumped.


Challenges are bound to happen in life, but parenting has a role to play in a way a child handles life situations and how it affects their self-esteem.

Self-esteem according to Webster’s dictionary means confidence and satisfaction in one’s self.
Most children suffer in silence from low self-esteem.
Another word for low self-esteem is the inferiority complex.
Children with low self-esteem are easily gullible and tend to fall into the wrong hands due to peer pressure from their friends.

Adversity quotient (AQ) is one of the indicators used in measuring a person’s success in life and is also primarily useful to predict altitude, mental stress, and longevity, learning and response to changes.
Parents should encourage children and not ridicule them, teach them how to handle stress and life-threatening issues and not forcing their opinions on them.
Teachers also are not exempted from this.


Adversity quotient (AQ) is a score that measures the ability of one to handle or deal with adversities in his or her life.
Psychologist indicates that life success depends on 20% of Intelligent quotient (I Q)and 80% of both Emotional intelligence (EI) and Adversity Quotient (AQ).
AQ is one of the probable indicators of a person’s success in life and is used to predict how well a person performs well in life.

AQ +EQ= success

AQ measures:
¶ Risk taking
¶ Creativity
¶ Altitude
¶ Longevity
¶ Learning
¶ Persistence
¶ Empowerment
¶ Motivation
¶ Resilience
¶ Productivity.

AQ helps in handling life challenges that come your way, it shows your ability to control life-threatening situations which can adversely affect our performance rate.

The stronger your AQ, the more effectively you will respond to adversity and less aftermath.

The weaker your AQ, the more difficult it becomes for you to handle life-threatening situations.

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